Tonight I was so very blessed to have a 30-minute conversation with my 12-year-old! It is very rare that I get that kind of block to sit one-on-one with any of my children. It turned out to be a nice conversation about school, how he likes some classes better than others and is thinking of joining choir next year. He even asked me a few questions about myself. I was delighted to share some of my stories and insights with him. As we enter the teen years, him being my first-born, I am trying to prepare for more serious issues than this. I'm thankful that it was so light-hearted. I worry myself, maybe for good reason, maybe out of fear, because I know boys don't always talk about personal things. I'm glad that when he came up to chat, I took the time.
Like I said, I was delighted to share some of my own personal experience with my son. The reason being, I am one woman in a house full of boys. Often the desires of the lady of the house are overlooked and even ignored at times. Not intentional of course but purely because they are young boys and are not that interested in long conversations with mom and my artsy interests. My husband really does good, but he's a man too and surely cannot relate well to things of the female type. I was raised an only child to a single mother. All I knew was girl stuff. I find it quite ironic that I now am surrounded by boys. Talk about complete opposite ends of the spectrum. Not to mention, my mother was a hair dresser so I spent much of my life in a beauty salon.
Going from a quiet girly house to a wild crazy sports filled house is something that I still have to adjust to from time to time. I just can't believe how much energy boys have. I swear it's all different too, depending on the stage they're at in development. They express it in many different ways. I've found that around the third/fourth grade years it comes out in pointless noise and sounds from the mouth. As a person who sings, I think there are many pleasant sounds that can come from the mouth but I can't help but be a little annoyed by all the random sounds these boys come up with as they're doing everything around the house. It could always be worse and so I just try to tune it out. Again, I'm hard wired for quiet. I think of it as a growth experience for me in accepting the quirks and silly antics of others. Growth is always good!
In a couple weeks we will have the opportunity to find out the sex of our new baby and I have to be honest, I'm hoping for a girl. I love my boys so much and will still be totally in love with another little boy if that's what we've been given. While talking to a good friend today and listening to her talk about dance class and dresses, I do believe my desire for a little girl increased. She would be such a little princess and we need another girl in the house so the boys can see that it's not just mom who talks a lot.
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